December 11 – 11 Things What are 11 things your life doesn’t need in 2011? How will you go about eliminating them? How will getting rid of these 11 things change your life? (Author: Sam Davidson)
11 Things – Exclusive of feelings and emotions
1. Crap in my room, closet, common area
2. As many bills as possible
3. My last class in school – finish!
4. Flaky friends
5. Books that are just taking up room
6. Any clothes that I haven’t worn in one year
7. Extra craft supplies I will never use – sell or give away
8. Artificial sweeteners – especially Diet Coke
9. Obsolete electronics and plugs
10. Junk mail and solicitations
11. Weird cans of paint
I tried to take this literal as opposed to listing negative feelings and emotions especially since I’ve written about those things in other prompts. Obviously, one of the issues I constantly deal with is clutter (I was joking with a friend she has books about making bookshelves when her bookshelves are overflowing, and I have at least three books that deal with clutter) – I think I have a lot of different reasons for it, one of which might be slight OCD/hoarding behavior. I’ve been working on finding the motivation in myself to push through whatever barriers I have around getting rid of physical things that may weigh me down.
Artificial sweeteners – I just know that they are so bad being full of chemicals where I otherwise eat pretty well.
I guess looking back at the list, one thing that has do with people besides myself is flaky friends. I was chatting the other day with a very good friend about another long time friend, and I’ve been keeping a distance from her because especially over the last few years, I’ve noticed that some of her behavior is attention seeking that I feel is inappropriate. Because I have people in my life that are dealing with serious issues like addiction, I try to be aware of my enabling other people in their behaviors that they have admitted they are working on. While I probably won’t eliminate her because I think of her as family, I’m only reaching out to friends these days who I know will actually respond to requests to hang out, and if someone offers, now I wait for that person to follow through. I’ve now found out how many people don’t follow through or don’t make proper requests (last minute invites, texting after very long absence of communication). And it may not even be that that friend is flaky. It just may be that neither of us have very close friendship, so it may not be that important to get together.
Otherwise in 2011, I just want to get rid of a lot of dead weight and fix any nagging paperwork issues. I hope that will help me with whatever feng shui, psychological, metaphysical, universal issues to move forward in my life away from things that keep me from being in the moment. Zen in 2011.